Here's "A Little Ditty...........

About Chelsi and Steve".........

I wanted to finally tell everyone about what has been going on in my personal life with respect to my relationship with Steve. If any of you have read the beginning of my blog, you may remember a post way back in December that talked about my situation with men and primarily Steve. I also have had posts here and there about my adventures to Florida and the Caribbean to see Steve. I haven't been very forthcoming about what has been going on between he and I because it has been complicated and the timing wasn't right.

To give you a recap of what has been going on since, actually last March....yes, there is that much history.... Steve and I have always been just friends. For a couple of years previous to March of 2007 we were more like acquaintances. I was friends with his now ex-wife, Adrienne and knew him through her. He and I have been friendly, we have gone skiing, hung out at The Osprey, (A local bar where I used to live in Georgetown, Maine) and we have been to a few of the same parties. We never really thought much of anything other than we just knew each other from the same social circle.

We were both married when we knew each other. I ended up getting a divorce in 2005. Steve and I skied together the winter of 2006/2007 and became more friends than acquaintances. He had been going through some huge life changes during that time and we started talking more. I remember really noticing a difference in him that winter particularly one day when he was having a phone conversation with someone he was concerned about while on the chairlift one day and that is when I noticed what a truly nice and caring person he is. Before that, I honestly just knew him as "a local party dude".

Shortly after that is when, out of the blue, he reached out to me. I was someone he hoped he could talk with because I had been through a divorce and he was going through one and wanted some advice. He asked me about my divorce and we talked about what I went through. He did more listening than anything because I think he wanted to keep his divorce very private which I really appreciated because I was friends with both he and Adrienne. I noticed that they both had a very amicable and private divorce which is very rare. They are still very good friends today which is great.

He and I communicated on a regular basis and he actually invited me to go river rafting with him that fall. That trip was very interesting and was definitely the turning point in our relationship. We both had a great time and realized that we both had a crush on each other. This was actually very awkward at the time because for one, I had a boyfriend and I also felt like I was backstabbing Adrienne in some way.

As I mentioned in my December post, Adrienne and I spoke about the fact that Steve and I liked each other and she was very cool about the whole situation. There was really nothing we could do about it at that time, which I now realize was perfect for us. Steve and I went our separate ways for a couple of months. He dated a few people, I had a boyfriend and he was also planning on leaving in November to live on a sailboat for 6 months.

Just before he left, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend. Steve and I started talking quite a bit when I became single, but it was drag because he was leaving. I realized then that I still had a very strong feeling about Steve. He asked me to come visit him while he was on the boat once they hit the Caribbean. I was all about that and booked a trip in December to see him in March. But for some reason that wasn't soon enough for us, we were both really excited to see each other. So we made a plan to see each other while I was in Florida at a trade show in February.

When he came to visit me in Florida, that was the very first time we had ever hung out alone and were both single with the fact that we liked each other out in the open. It was very interesting because going into it, I wasn't really sure what would happen. Would we get along? Would we still like each other? I mean, it had been September since we had seen each other even though we spoke all the time. I have to say, that was it for me. We clicked so well, we got along great, we had a blast. All we did was laugh and have really deep talks.

It would be three weeks after that trip that we would see each other in the Caribbean. I couldn't wait to see him! We had another amazing 7 days together. Again, laughing, talking, becoming closer and closer. It was such a strange situation that we had from Florida until he came home. We had a very open relationship at the time because we knew we couldn't really be a couple until he came home. It wouldn't make any sense and I don't think either one of us wanted the pressure of a long distance relationship. It is too difficult.

Plus, this trip for him was very important that he focused on himself, self discovery, growth, etc. I completely understood that because after my divorce, for about 1 year I needed it to be all about me. I needed to focus on myself and my rebirth. A divorce really puts you through the wringer and I feel like you learn a lot about yourself and change. I really appreciated that time I had and I knew he would as well.

The timing wasn't right for Steve and I, he needed his time and I was perfectly happy focusing on my snowboarding season. I get a little OCD about Snowboarding season. (Good thing Steve Ski's!) ;-) We remained in constant contact, but there wasn't pressure on either end. I continued to date and he had "visitors".

Once he got home, which was 5 weeks ago....we knew we wanted to be together because we had grown so close over the last 7 months and we knew it was right. The timing finally came and I have to say, it has been amazing. I feel like my boyfriend is my best friend. We get along so well, we laugh, we communicate really well, have the same interests. We have been "officially" together for 5 weeks now and it has been great. Not a fight or an awkward moment.

It is funny how things happen. We started off as friends and now we are a couple. I was really worried at first about it being a bad situation because of Adrienne. I didn't want to be malicious to her as being a friend that is now dating her ex-husband. The fact that we all were very open with each other and communicated about it, I think helped. I also think that because Adrienne and Steve are still friends has been good for both of them.

That is my Steve and Chelsi story, officially out in the open.

I am sure my future posts will involve Steve as my blog is mostly about my life's adventures and we both love adventure. We have done a lot together already: a wedding in California, dirt biking, boating, family gatherings, etc. We also have a lot planned so far for our summer together. We have some concerts coming up, more dirt biking, wakeboarding, BBQ's, friends and family parties, etc. It is shaping up to be a fun summer already.

Until next time...........